A brief introduction post because, I guess that’s how you start a blog? #amidoingthisright?
My name is Rachael, and I finally turned 30 last month after literally looking forward to it for YEARS. You read that right. In my opinion, your twenties aren’t all they’re cracked up to be. I spent those years college-hopping, job-hopping, state-hopping (more on that later) and while I collected some great memories, I truly believe the best ones are still ahead of me. So far, my thirties have yet to disappoint.
I’m married to my best friend (insert cute-couple-sap-groan here), but seriously, he’s the best. He’s way cooler than me so obviously I locked that shit up as soon as I got the chance. He’s also active-duty Air Force, which makes me a military spouse–”milspouse” for short. Being a spouse in any regard is no easy feat, but there are definitely some unique aspects about military life that add to the complexity of moving through life with your one-and-only. Much of this blog will be dedicated to sharing the ins and outs of navigating military life as a complete newb, because sometimes military stuff is confusing and convoluted.
Military stuff is a huge part of my life right now, so needless to say, it will be a big topic on this blog. But it’s not everything. A lot of it will be just about navigating life itself as a complete newb, because that too can be confusing and convoluted. Eliciting Authenticity is me taking action, seeking clarity through actively exploring life. It’s learning how to love myself–flaws included, practicing idea expression through various mediums, archiving memories, and building a community of badasses who want to get the most out of life–fumbles and all.
I’m all for ‘fake-it-til-you-make-it’ in some circumstances, but this blog will not follow that mantra. As much as it will challenge me to do so, I want to share my real-life struggles here. A lot of times I feel like everyone around me has their shit together and I must’ve missed the memo that outlined how to adult. I don’t think anyone actually likes to be the new guy, being clueless and unsure. I certainly struggle with accepting that my chapter one sometimes coincides with someone else’s chapter twenty-two. That being said, I don’t want my transformational discomfort to halt my growth as a person. Moving through life, we are constantly growing, learning, evolving; building the layers of the person we are today, only to add another layer tomorrow and the next day.
I’m slowly figuring out how to build my life into one that I love, and if I can share the tips and tricks I’ve haphazardly scraped together in order to help someone else along in their struggle– then selfishly, I feel like I’m doing my part for the greater good. Idealistically, if that mindset were more widespread maybe the struggle wouldn’t be such a struggle. One of the hangups I’ve come to time and time again while toying with the idea of starting this blog is Who am I to give any kind of advice on life? I still feel like I’m pretty frikkin lost most of the time. And while that is certainly my honest opinion, I think it’s a pretty dumb reason to not share what I actually have learned if it could help someone else. Basically, when confronted with that self-doubting thought, I have continually responded with No, I need to have ALL the answers before I share SOME of them (information hoard much?). What a ridiculous conclusion to make. Especially because there will NEVER be a time that I have all the answers. Revolutionary, I know.
All that being said here’s the spoiler alert: I’ve never done this before, I have no idea what I’m doing, but I’m trying to have some fun while I figure it out. I’m hoping you’ll be able to relate to my struggle to adult. I’ll share what I learn and you share what you learn so we don’t fuck this thing up too badly, sound good?